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Though now I live a life that’s defined by freedom and happiness, it wasn’t always like this — I’ve gone through a lot, and it took me a long time to be able to learn that I’m not powerless, to find that power, and to take control of the things that matter most to me.
This is my journey.
To put it simply, my childhood was hell.
I’m a survivor of childhood sexual assault and sexual abuse. I wasn’t assaulted by a stranger — I was assaulted by members of my own family, people I trusted, people I even thought I loved.
My father left us when I was just 6. My mom checked out completely. Women feeling empowered — and being supported in their empowerment — wasn’t really a thing back then. She had been dependent her whole life. She didn’t know what to do.
Which meant that I ended up being the parent in my household to both my mother and my younger brother. It was a lot for a 6-year-old to take on — too much.
Because my father is Jewish and my mother is Christian, we didn’t get any help from our extended families — they saw us as having “poisoned blood.”
When I was 13, I discovered alcohol and drugs, something that took away the incredible amount of stress I was under. Thankfully, I realized that this was the wrong path by the time I was 17. I had a therapist, but they reported everything that we talked about. I couldn’t trust them.
I had to find a way out.
I started looking into spirituality as a way of avoiding the mainstream medical establishment that so clearly had higher priorities than me or my well-being. I worked with a North American shaman and investigated alternative healing methods.
This prepared me for The One Command, which I wouldn’t encounter for many years.
Because in the meantime, I met my ex-husband.
I had gone to college and got a degree in marketing, merchandising, and graphic design. I met him while going to school and fell in love. He was much older than me — 13 years older — but I overlooked that.
Maybe I shouldn’t have.
My husband treated me as his trophy, the young thing he’d “won,” a woman he wanted complete control over.
He was a complete dictator — living with him was extremely oppressive. He took away all my credit and debit cards, locked me out of bank accounts, and only gave me an allowance. Everything that happened in public was a facade — he was a terror at home.
That allowance was a pittance. He would give me less than $100 for a week’s worth of groceries and gas. If I spent more than I was allowed, he would take something I loved away from me or punish me in some way.
He eventually moved us to Texas, which was another form of control — I knew nobody in Texas, was taking care of my firstborn who was still just a baby, and had to give up my job to do so. I had postpartum extremely badly, which just made it easier for me to give him total control.
Thankfully, I was able to make some new friends here, and over time, they got to know me and my life and what was going on.
And they helped me to see that what he was doing was not normal and was not okay.
The divorce took some time. I had to change my state of mind. I had to wake up and take back control.
By the time the divorce went through, I had two kids — a son and a daughter — to take care of, and I had to figure out how to support them and myself.
Going back to work was pure hell. Nobody took me seriously. I think they just saw a woman who was playing at having a job — not someone to respect.
I made them respect me.
I found a job in the automotive industry doing the work I’d gone to school to learn how to do. I made an impact and found my footing. Though I was eventually fired from that job, the universe had other plans for me, and I found something much better afterward.
This was a difficult time for my kids. My son was diagnosed with ADD, major depressive disorder, and bipolar disorder. He struggled a lot. My daughter, thankfully, was very into barrel racing and spending time with her horses — I think that helped her get through.
Over time, I was able to build a great career. I bought some land, built my own house, and became completely independent — financially and spiritually.
So much of it is thanks to The One Command.
I first became aware of The One Command from my mother, who handed me the book. Everything I read resonated deeply with me. I went online, found the coaching course, and started going through the process.
The idea is to work through 6 steps that will help you completely reprogram your mind and shift your thought processes.
You do this using techniques that shift your brain waves into a theta configuration, which is the same waveform that appears when you’re drifting off to sleep and when you’re just starting to wake up.
These are the same techniques that the military uses before missions. Our special forces especially use these techniques, which include visualization of the outcomes we want during a meditation-like process.
By calming our nervous system and shutting down the monkey brain that says, “I can’t do this, it’s too hard,” we’re able to move ourselves toward the goals we want to achieve and get out of our own way.
I use these techniques with all of my clients.
When I work with my clients, my goal is to retrain their minds and bodies, helping them to get out of fight-or-flight mode and into a theta-wave state where they can more effectively move themselves toward their goals and dreams.
We’ll start by going over the things in your life that you’re struggling with and the goals you want to achieve. We’ll break it into pieces, focusing on the things that are most pressing or most important.
As you work on those pieces, you’ll see other issues start to be resolved. The pieces will fall into place faster than you’d think.
I’ll help you with your underlying beliefs and fears that are holding you back. I’ll show you how to create the life you’ve always wanted to live. I’ll take you through this process step by step with weekly check-ins.
I’ll be there for you through this entire process. You can always message me when you have questions or worries through a messaging app I’ll share with you. If you find yourself panicking, send me a message — we’ll work through it together.
If, during our journey, we find that there are some bigger problems that need solving, I’ll connect you with the resources you need to address those issues.
I’m a champion of the underdog because I used to be one. I know what it’s like to grow up powerless and have no idea how to get out of the situation you’re in.
If that’s how you feel — trapped, powerless, lost — I want to help.
Let’s talk.
Contact me today, and we’ll discuss how I can help you take control of your life.
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